What do you feel when you meet a person for the first time? Scared, impressed, intimidated, cocky?
I don't think I can ever forget when I was taught about handshakes. It has to be firm, not too hard to crush the other hand, but firm enough to translate confidence.
Is this another North American trend? Or is it too simple and rather simplistic to call this North American? Why do we like or, rather, why are we obsessed with seeming self confident? A weak handshake, a feeble smile, a nuanced and unclear opinion are all sneered at.
I don't know what to feel about this. If we can't successfully make eye contact, we have a problem. If we can't dress accordingly, we are called losers. Society is hard and harsh. So what's the solution? Wish I knew.
My extremely bright teacher who taught me theory of knowledge (phil course) in high school strongly believed that confidence does not exist. He didn't explain too much about it or maybe I skipped that class.perhaps what he meant was that confidence is just an illusion. The boy I'm currently seeingsaid to me once that security doesn't exist it's only an ilusion for even the stability of a civilisation could be easily taken away though everyone feels safe at the moment.it made me very uncomfortable and almost angry when he said it but I see some truth in it. Perhaps the same for confidence, just depends onhow you see it.
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